Everyone experiences loss, nothing in this world is permanent. Some things can be long-term but eventually, they too will fall away. As someone who struggles with substance use, you might experience more loss than others. Addiction can take away family and friends, steal dignity, honesty, and self-esteem. However, many of these things can be reclaimed, not necessarily in the same way, but they can be part of your life again. There is hope.
First all, people battling addictions must face the loss of certain coping strategies. Sometimes, people describe getting sober as oddly feeling like they lost their best friend. You might hate what your addiction pushed into doing but it was always there. If you lost your job, your addiction comforted you. If your children left, your addiction stayed.
The relationship you have with your addiction is intimate and pervasive and it is also incredibly dysfunctional and harmful. Still, it walking away from it is a massive loss. You are going to miss your drug of choice, the people with whom you used, and the ability to hide from problems, as well as the ability to blame failure on something or someone else.
Switch Up Your Routine
A large part of addiction is the ritual- you get up in the morning and light that first cigarette or have that first drink. You get off work and you go to the same bar and sit with the same people. As your addiction progressed, you delivered little, secret ways of coping. These things were part of your life that were also destroying it. Still, it will be painful to change.
In recovery, you will develop healthier rituals. You might replace that visit to the bar with a 12-Step meeting or a support group, or you might work out before going to work. Replacing the things in your life that were harmful with healthier activities will strengthen your recovery. It will give you the courage and the confidence to face the other losses in your life and deal with them in a proactive, and adaptive way. Rather than hiding, you will have the skill to look at a problem and solve it effectively.
Dealing with loss is never pleasant, but it is much easier sober. You have the skills already. People living with addiction are often masters of scheduling and time management, they are often superb salespeople. You are strong. You have survived this far. Take the next step to build a life worth living. Fort Worth Recovery uses both group and individual therapy to help identify your strengths and ways to use them more effectively. Call us at 817 382 2894 or contact us online. We are waiting for you- believe in yourself, even just for today.